About me

I am a card-carrying introvert. Loved-ones have heard me say: “My favorite plans are the ones that get cancelled.” I also love to coach other introverts.

On the road to coaching I was a dancer, a grant writer, a school counselor and a therapist.

Brené Brown’s research on shame, vulnerability and perfectionism has given me the tools and a new language for discussing the most universal of all human experiences.

When I’m not crusading for the shame-free revolution, I’m gardening, riding my horse, traveling, reading, hanging with my husband and kids or throwing a Frisbee for my dogs.

Joan combines her knowledge of human emotions and relationships with a sense of humor, and great insight.LH, Certified Professional Coach

Personal truths

Life is messy.

The mess is what makes us human. The harder we hustle to sweep it under the rug, the more likely it will come back to bite us in the butt.


At the heart of perfectionism is fear.

We live in fear of being seen as flawed and therefore unlovable.  We strive for unattainable perfection to protect ourselves from the perceived judgement of others.

Shame kills creativity.

Shame has the power to stifle creativity, deter innovation, and turn us off from the love of learning. As far as I know, robots are not known for their big ideas and beautiful artwork.


Vulnerability breeds connection.

When we practice vulnerability we make others feel more comfortable with their own.

Humor is essential.

Laughter is like oxygen for the soul, especially when it’s at our own expense.


The facts

Certified Daring Way™ Facilitator-Consultant
THE DARING WAY™ – HOUSTON, TX

Certified Professional Co-Active Coach
THE COACHES TRAINING INSTITUTE – SAN RAFAEL, CA

Masters in Counseling Psychology
LESLEY UNIVERSITY – CAMBRIDGE, MA

Bachelor of Arts in Movement Therapy
HAMPSHIRE COLLEGE – AMHERST, MA

LightHouse Holyoke: Personalized Education for Teens
VICE CHAIR, BOARD OF DIRECTORS – HOLYOKE, MA (Current)

Trustee (2005-2012)
HAMPSHIRE COLLEGE – AMHERST, MA

Professional Certified Coach (PCC)
INTERNATIONAL COACHES FEDERATION

ICF Mentor Coach

Non Violent Communication training (NVC)

Mindful Self Compassion Training
Christopher Germer, PhD & Kristin Neff, PhD