The following is an excerpt from Amy Elias’s blog in the Huffington Post. I particularly love this piece about adulthood and “playing pretend.”

Do we really need a personal development trainer, counselor or coach to tell us to “Tell the Truth” now and again? I guess so, as we all are not emotionally honest and lie to a degree at least some time, in some space, in some way. I have learned that by NOT telling the truth, and not being as real as I could possibly be, I have lost many opportunities — for one very major reason: I felt “fake” to myself. This created a separation between my true “Truth Telling” authentic self and the one I paraded around the world with. Non-truths are like “smoke and mirrors.” Untruths compensate for the deep hurt, protection, sadness, deficiency inside of us and hide our authentic selves. Have you learned that our lies, our untruths, have shades? White lies, anyone? Even when we ‘white lie” and pretend the pink elephant is NOT in the room, it interferes with expressing who we really are in the world, our authentic “brand,” per se. We hide, cloak our greatest gift and live someone else’s version of our dream life. When we are dishonest to ourselves or others our “YOU-nique” gift, the one no one else can offer the world, is hidden. What a sad thing that is!

Listen and hear TRUTH as truth and you will feel the untruths bubble up — as we are hardwired to sense it. We call that intuition.

The truth is the greatest gift we can give ourselves. Say the TRUTH when you feel hurt, sad, distressed, betrayed, abandoned, unrecognized, invisible — be out with it and be clear in your own heart. When we are truthful, we become the expert in our lives. So say, “I deeply screwed up — I lied to you when you asked me x, y or z.” A coming clean refreshes all and allows the real you to emerge. Come out of the preschool game of “let’s play pretend.” Kindergarten is over. Adulthood is here. Milk and cookies anyone?
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Amy Elias, MS, is the founder of WHiP It! Productions: Where Wisdom, Health, Integrity and Passion Merge. Link here for the entire blog post: https://www.huffingtonpost.com/amy-elias/tell-the-truth_b_1132058.html